This is a guest post from Marky.
What might have been, it’s most probably the hardest question you’ll ever ask yourself. To live in utter regret and confusion, as memories of lost opportunities seep through your inner spirit. As you see your dreams go down the drain even before you plunge in and give it a go. A question perhaps you’ll never know the answer, not even when the opportunity, no matter how rarely it may seem, comes knocking at your door the second time around.
As time passes by, circumstances change. Nothing is the same. No matter how hard you convince yourself that you are better off with the way you are now. There will always be a point in your journey where you stop and ask this improbable question. And would you call it malcontent, irreverence towards where God led you, or is it just part of our human nature to question our frailty in standing up to our decisions? I don’t know.
Sometimes I feel that maybe it is God’s way of showing us that we are free beings, beings who make decisions out of the desires of his heart, out of the fleeting emotions one feels at a certain point in time? Yes, free beings, and no matter how free we are, we are however not free from the consequences of our decisions. We could either, live in shame, sulk in regret or move on hoping that the next decision we make won’t create the same amount of disarray in our system.
In my 23 something years of existence, I have asked this question a tad too much. Is it my lack of confidence in my own capacities? Is it my overtly eager spirit? Truth is, I don’t have answers. What I do know is that when I made my decisions, Christ was with me, and as I go along, either regretting my decision or rejoicing in utmost glee, he would still be with me. I may not have sought Christ’s counsel in some of the decisions I’ve made, but I know that he was with me and continues to be with me, for he said in his word, “I will never leave you nor forsake you”, and that ought to be enough comfort to any disgruntled mind asking the question of “what might have been?”.
January 26, 2007 at 6:21 pm
As Marc (note: Marc with a C) used to say, it’s actually an “irrelevant” kind of question. You’ve already made your decision, why yet wonder what would have been if you chose another? hehe
What do you think?
January 26, 2007 at 6:28 pm
yep..i know..but you still cant help but ask yourself this question..
January 26, 2007 at 10:04 pm
It is only but human nature to dwell on the past…
Thinking of what might have been or what could have happened had we made another decision apart from what we had made.
But for whatever action that we will make, we just have to be mature enough and be responsible for it…..
January 26, 2007 at 11:26 pm
Hmmm, this is going to be an intellectual discussion…
The question is, what if you don’t love your job? (bwahahha now, that surely is irrelevant!)
February 2, 2007 at 9:34 pm
It’s hard to have “what ifs” at the last few years of your life’so if you ever reach crossroads, might as well jump into the unknown and trust your instincts, when you’re old you’d rather want to have that “what a ride!” feeling than the “what if” or “what might have been” question that keeps spinning in your mind.
February 3, 2007 at 5:34 pm
Hmmm, that one is enlightening. hehe yeah I agree with you. you’ll just need to learn on how to enjoy the ride, instead of keep wondering “What If?” 🙂